Tell Yourself The Truth Instead

You could sit here and beat yourself up about how you’re not good enough, thin enough, fit enough, pretty enough, handsome enough, smart enough, and how you could fail in every possible way at any and everything…

Or…

You could tell yourself the truth instead.

It’s your call.

Ask yourself this: What makes you feel more free, at peace, filled with love, happy and joyful, and overall less stressed? Is it beating yourself up about everything? Probably not.

Whatever does make you feel free, do that thing. Think that thing. Because that’s the thing that will lead you to better health and a more joyful and exciting existence. And that’s the truth.

I caught myself beating myself up about not exercising for four whole days. I was constantly evaluating my stomach by pinching my excess fat and getting carried away in my stinkin’ (untruthful) thinkin’.

My stomach is too fat.

My stomach is so untoned.

Why am I so lazy?

I can’t believe I haven’t exercised in 4 days! (whoopsh-whoopsh goes the whip)

This kind of thinking makes me feel awful. I feel heavy and uncomfortable in my body, angry and upset, and it steals every last morsel of motivation I could possibly have. This kind of thinking paralyzes me – from working out to working on my business to feeling joy.

So why would I think and believe these thoughts that make me feel so horrible? It’s because I’ve forgotten to look for the truth instead.

When I take the time to get still and look within, I see my truth, and fat, untoned, and lazy aren’t anywhere to be found.

What are you thinking that is paralyzing you? Thoughts that make you feel shitty, unworthy, and like a failure do not deserve the time of day that you give them. What if you took the time to get still so you could look within for your own truth? Who are you at your core, belly folds and all? So what if you don’t exercise consistently, can’t concoct a simply roux (seriously, why is that so hard?), or crave Little Debbie cakes at nightfall? Those things are actually what make you so unique, and so lovely in every way. And they compliment who you really are – your true self in all its true beauty.

Make a list of who you really are, your inner goddess, and start loving every inch of you.

Here’s a look at my list so you get the idea.

My Stinkin’ Untruthful List                              My Inner Truth, Who I Really Am

Could lose a few pounds                                                Beautiful

Not very motivated                                                         Motivated

Unproductive                                                                   Productive

Distracted                                                                         Multi-passionate

Semi-interesting                                                              Interesting

Slacker                                                                              Energetic

Unstable                                                                           Lover of Nonconformity

And the list goes on! Have fun by getting even more detailed about your truths, like what is beautiful about you, what makes you so unique and exciting, etc.

So go ahead and make your own truth list, and please share below! I’d LOVE to see who YOU are at your core!

xo

The Dishwashing Meditation

Are you one of those people who know you should be meditating but you still haven’t found the time to do so in the ten or twenty plus years you’ve been meaning to? You know it’s good for you, but yet you don’t do it. You still can’t find the time. Other things are still more important like watering the plants, cleaning out the kitty litter, making your kids’ lunches, washing the dishes, tidying the bedrooms, etc. You know that meditating is worth so much more for your health than all those other things, but yet you still…don’t…do it.

(And I’m talking from experience!)

I’m here to amalgamate the two for you: house chores and meditation. (Choritation?)

You know you’re going to get your house chores done, am I right? So now your meditation will get done no matter what. Your house will be clean, and so will your mind.

But first…

An evening in the life of Meghan:

The dishes were piled high. The scent of burnt beef was still in the air. The frying pan encrusted with over-cooked sausage called my name every time I walked by. The cappuccino machine was still splattered with this morning’s over-frothed milk. The soiled cutting board still held half a head of cauliflower on it because, damnit, I was just too busy to put it back in the fridge!

But I REALLY need to go and unwind, get peaceful in my body, and relax.

But it’s already nine o’clock, I’m getting tired, and those dishes won’t clean themselves…

…ok…insert about five more minutes of mind garble-gook here…and then…

I remember that meditation doesn’t mean having to sit cross-legged on the floor, with your eyes closed and with a softly-scented candle burning in a dark room. Meditation simply means training your mind to “stop” to invoke a more relaxed and peaceful state of consciousness. (Well, that’s MY definition, anyways). There are so many forms of meditation; it really can look a variety of different ways.

So here we go. The Dishwashing Meditation for you.

Place your feet on the floor and turn on the water.

Wait!

How do your feet feel on the floor? Are you wearing socks or are you barefoot? It may help to be barefoot to help ground you into the floor better. Take a moment to recognize how your feet feel touching the linoleum, hard wood, carpet (blech, I hope not in the kitchen!) It may help to use progressive relaxation techniques if you’re a newbie at this. This would mean scrunching your toes up, holding them scrunched for a few seconds, and then releasing them. You’ll notice the energy in your feet way easier this way.

Slowly place your hand under the water and feel the temperature of it. It may help to place the top of your hand under the water, as that area is more sensitive to touch than our palms are. Pay attention to how the water feels on the specific area it is hitting. Slowly rock your hand back and forth to feel the water hitting different areas.

Pick up that soiled pot and notice how your hand feels touching the handle. Place all of your attention on the sensation of grabbing the pot (or whatever you are washing) in your hands.

(Minds that are currently in the gutter can now come out. We are talking about a mindful meditation here!!!!!) 🙂

And your mind will want to chime in thousands of times during your dishwashing meditation. I simply say out loud (or in my head if I’m not alone) “Reset” when I notice my mind wanting to contribute its two cents. It helps to re-center and bring me back to my body. (If I were to say this aloud around people they would think there was a hyper-active parrot loose in the house).

And most importantly, pay attention to your breathing during your dishwashing meditation. Let you belly pooch out and let that sucker fill with air. Washing the dishes isn’t a beauty contest. You don’t need to suck in that gut while you loiter in the kitchen wearing rubber gloves! Let it all hang out, and enjoy the feeling of fully breathing. This is breathing for your health at its finest. Try to make your inhalation and exhalation the same length, and allow the air to go in and out through your nose. While you are feeling the touch of water on your hands, the sensation of stainless steel in your palms, try to also pay attention to the feeling of the air passing in and out through your nose.

At this point you’ll probably need to lovingly but firmly say “Reset! Reset! Polly wants to reset?”

Then, rinse, repeat, rinse, repeat.

You’ll notice (and if you don’t, you’ll just need more practice) a feeling of peace, relaxation, and bliss intermittently whilst scrubbing your Tupperware. Time will seem to pass by slower. Your limbs may feel warm and cozy. Your heart may feel expansive and open. You may even smile for no reason. Until your mind wants to let you know for the four-hundredth time how that woman should have not been so rude over the phone!

So you say “Reset” and bring yourself back to your body, your breath, your sensations. Joy and peace will pop up again within the silence you are creating for yourself.

Then rinse, repeat, and rinse, repeat…