Name That Tune!

This exercise is meant to increase your awareness about your thoughts which will ultimately lead to detachment from your thoughts. (If you’re jumping up and down in excitement right now then this exercise is definitely for you!!!) This means that your thoughts will become less and less believable (more like a fictional story) because that is all they are anyways: a fictional story!

Your mind will often get lost in fictional thoughts and stories when your mind and body are not functioning as a cohesive team. This means that the mind and body are disconnected and aren’t able to communicate properly with each other. This could go on for hours, days, weeks, or even years without you being aware of what’s really going on. These stories seem so believable that you actually think it’s important to think and worry about them constantly. But that’s just a little mind trick that happens when you are disconnected from your body and your body’s wisdom; the mind thinks it is helping you by doing this but it is actually not.

So let’s go ahead and nip this misbehaving mind trick in the bud by noticing what’s happening and then making a conscious effort to stop the misbehaviour.

Here it goes:

  1. Notice The Music – Stop and become aware of what you are thinking throughout the day = the music in your mind!! When you first start this awareness activity you’ll have to consciously remind yourself to do this. Some examples of ways to remind yourself:
    1. Setting a timer on your phone or watch to remind yourself to check in
    2. Carrying something special in your pocket (a rock, an inspirational coin, etc.) that reminds you to check in each time you touch it
    3. Wearing something special (a bracelet, necklace, etc.) that reminds you to check in each time you touch it/think of it
    4. Journaling at specific times of the day to see what you’re thinking
    5. Checking in with your thoughts at each red light as your driving
    6. Checking in with your thoughts after each meal
  1. Name That Tune –Now that you are aware that a CD is playing in your head, ask yourself what thoughts are spinning around and around in your head right now, as if the thoughts were a disc that was on repeat or shuffle.

Pretend your thoughts are tracks on a CD (or an iPod playlist for the younger generation)! Say the playlist had 15 tracks on it: Which track is playing now? Can you think of some other tracks that might be on this playlist?

For example, if you are thinking all about how you shouldn’t have acted that way, how you should have acted more intelligent in that situation, or how you should have been more funny, kind, and interesting, you might name your track:

“The Tale About The Girl Who Sucks” or “Sucky, Stupid Me”

Be as creative or as straight-shooter as you want to be. Go with whatever resonates and maybe something that makes you laugh. You can even picture yourself pressing “Track X”, the CD spinning in your head, and the Sucky Song (or whatever song you are listening to) starting to play.

Doing this exercise creates space from you and your thoughts and you no longer become the victim of your thoughts but instead you become the watcher of your thoughts.

  1. Notice How the Song Makes You Feel – Does that track make you feel happy, peaceful and free, or does it make you feel squashed, tight, and little? In other words, does it make you feel shackled to a wall like a prisoner or unshackled and free as a bird?

If the track makes you feel unshackled, bubbly, and free as a bird, then the track is definitely serving you and helping guide you closer to your right life. If this is the case you can stop this exercise right now and enjoy!

If the track is making you feel shackled, it is NOT serving you and it would be in your best interest to push STOP! If this is the case, carry on with step 4!

  1. Press Stop – Deliberately press STOP. You can visualize you finger pressing the stop button in your mind to help create that space between you and your thoughts. Is it really helpful to listen to the same old untruthful, awful-feeling song over and over? It’s no different listening to a band you dislike over and over and over. If you don’t like the Backstreet Boys I have a hunch you’ll start to feel agitated, angry, and lifeless after “As Long As You Love Me” plays for the 15th time. Playing those awful tracks (thoughts) in your mind over and over and over again is no different!
  1. Choose a New Tune – Think about what you’d rather spend your time doing. Do you want to create a new tune that feels better and even truer? Maybe instead of singing “The Tale about the Girl Who Sucks” you start singing “The Tale about the Girl Who Knows a Teensy Weensy Bit about Everything”. Does that feel any truer? Any freer? More peaceful?

This might be a good time to create a 2nd CD that has tracks that you LIKE on it; tracks that make you feel happy, empowered, healthy, and unstoppable!

Or maybe you decide you are kind of sick of listening to a CD altogether and would rather practice:

– Total body awareness and living in the present moment

– Listing the Facts ONLY

– Breathing

– Or any other combination of life coaching tools that you have in your trusty pocket!

I want to know all about your tunes and CDs! Share your most played tracks in the comments below!

Have fun!

Body Awareness

Body Awareness Audio

Click on the link below to listen to my Body Awareness audio, where I guide you through a quick body scan to help you connect to your body and experience peace and oneness in the present moment. A HUGE pain and stress reliever!

This is a great intro to creating mind-body awareness!

Click this link: Body Awareness

Just Launched – 2012 Coaching Package!

Kick-Start 2012: Invest in Yourself

Do you make New Year’s Resolutions that don’t ever stick? Each year do you resolve to get in shape, eat less junk, waste less time, make more money, live happier, spend more time laughing, stop taking things for granted, etc.? Do these resolutions ever last? Do you ever wonder why your resolutions never work?

The answer revolves around one simple phrase: mind-body disconnect.

Most of us don’t have a very good connection between our body and our mind. We have unknowingly trained ourselves to ignore our body right from toddlerhood. We are supposed to suck it up and stop crying. We are supposed to work hard and finish our homework even if we are dog-tired. We are supposed to dress up and go to our family dinner even if we don’t feel like it. We push through life ignoring our body and what it wants. We stop living inside our body from a very young age, and instead, we live the majority of our life inside our head rationalizing, planning, analyzing, and worrying. Our body stops sending us messages and wisdom because we aren’t listening.

So what does this all mean?

When we aren’t connected to and living inside our body it is harder to make life-long and healthy changes in our life because…

Not living inside our body means:

  • Emotions aren’t being felt. The unfelt emotional energy doesn’t just disappear; instead it gets stuffed down into different parts of our body, and if we don’t know how to feel and release it, it may eventually turn into chronic pain. Obsessive behaviours like over-eating and over-working is one way to stuff down emotions so they aren’t felt.
  • We don’t fully feel things. We don’t know what true joy or happiness feels like. It’s half-living, or living with our blinders on. We often eat to dull any emotional pain that tries to surface.
  • We make life decisions based solely on our mind and our thoughts. Thoughts aren’t 100% accurate and can be lies or fictional stories we unconsciously create, so that can lead us down an unfulfilling pathway in life. We may make resolutions that won’t serve us, but don’t know it.
  • We aren’t connected to our soul. We can feel isolated and alone when we aren’t connected to our body. Feelings of separation and aloneness can lead to behaviours like over-eating, over-worrying, over-analyzing, wasting time watching too much t.v. or surfing the internet, etc.
  • Not knowing what we truly want out of life. If we aren’t checking in with our body and soul and asking it questions and listening for answers, we will easily get lost in life. It’s like driving to an unknown location without a map or a GPS. Once you make a wrong-turn it’s easier to make another wrong turn and to get further and further off-route.

So, is it time to make a change in your life?

Is 2012 your year to truly kick your bad habits and unconscious way of living to the curb and jump-start your year by investing in yourself and in a lighter, happier, and more healthy and fulfilling future?

Sign up for Kick-Start 2012: Invest in Yourself  to learn how to strengthen your mind-body connection, start living in your body, and get back on route to an awesome life!

By re-connecting to your body with my kick-start 2012 3-session program, you’ll learn:

  • Techniques to reconnect back to your body
  • How to listen to and interpret your body’s wise messages and wisdom and use it to help guide you towards a fulfilling life
  • How your thoughts are what create your stress, NOT your situation
  • How to dissolve your stressful thoughts so they have less power over you
  • How to create more peace within yourself
  • What excites and energizes you, and what drains your energy and doesn’t serve your well-being
  • How to start taking back control of your own life

3 – 60 minute sessions

Investment: $150