If I thought I could tell you how to heal your pain in one post then I would definitely need to get my head checked and retire as a life coach. Just to clarify, when I use the word pain, I’m referring to physical, emotional, and mental pain; basically anything that causes you to suffer in your life. If your pain causes you to suffer, then you are dealing with dirty pain and we want to get to the bottom of it and relieve your pain/suffering. If your pain doesn’t cause you to suffer, then you are probably dealing with clean pain, or you’ve already done a lot of work on yourself and you are able to think clearer and more truthfully. I’m going to give you an example of what exactly I mean when I say pain that causes you to suffer and pain that doesn’t cause you to suffer.
We, as humans, are excellent storytellers. Some of us like to tell an uplifting and positive story (either through discipline or being blessed with a naturally optimistic viewpoint) while some of us like to tell our stories like we are victims of our life. Let’s compare two women who have both gone through similar divorces. The first woman tells herself that the divorce shouldn’t have happened, that she’ll be lonely forever, that she’ll never be loved again, and that she is worthless, while the second woman tells herself that this really is for the best, that there is no point to stay together if they don’t both love each other, that this will give her quality time to spend with herself, that she will find someone to share her life with again someday, and that she is a worthwhile person who just didn’t jive with her hubby anymore. Now, I want to be very clear here! Both women are still dealing with pain from the separation of a loved one, but this pain is clean. Experiencing this clean pain is part of the healthy grieving process that everyone needs to go through when dealing with loss and major/minor catastrophic events. The dirty pain that causes such suffering comes from the negative thoughts that the first woman has. She is creating enormous amounts of stress in her body from the constant, spiralling negative thoughts she has about herself and her future. Make sense?
So, if you are one of those people who are suffering from emotional, physical, or mental pain, how do you heal the pain? How do you cure the pain? If you’re looking for the magic pill to cure your depression, anxiety, worrisome thoughts, interstitial cystitis, back pain, fibromyalgia, unhappiness, sadness, weight issues, or any other chronic pain or uncomfortable and unwanted emotion, I’m sorry to say that you ain’t going to find it here, or anywhere else for that matter! There is no magic pill. No magic purple potion. But there is definitely a way to cure your pain. But it involves way more than choking down a horse pill. You can heal your pain by starting on a dedicated, exhilarating, confusing, surprising, and fulfilling journey; a journey that isn’t a simple walk in the park, but a meaningful and worthwhile trek in an untamed jungle where the map is written in an obscure language. It’s a journey of discovering who you really are and what you really want out of life. So instead of handing you a magic potion, I can give you the magic ingredients. I can provide you with information and useful tools for you to use over time, so slowly, you’ll get clearer and clearer and your pain will slowly disappear over time, just like how my interstitial cystitis disappeared. Although I started my journey to relieve physical pain, my journey is now focused on following my feel good and living the life I was meant to live and serving the people I was meant to serve. I am so thankful that I embarked on this journey, because I would definitely not be doing what lights me up if I hadn’t been blessed with a body that talked to me.
So keep on following me if you’re up for living an authentic, healthy, and life without pain…
A quote that helped me during times of pain:
“You can allow yourself to be a work of art, unique, intriguing, perhaps unusual, imperfect, not everybody’s style, but something to be treasured, always.” – Abigail Steidley