Sing To Yourself

Do you sing out loud on a daily basis? I hope so – at least on a weekly basis. While you’re singing, have you ever tried singing a song to yourself instead of to yours truly or a fictional lover? I hope so again! But if you haven’t, I highly, highly recommend you try it.

(You can watch me singing to myself at the bottom of this page…)

Singing to yourself will increase your happiness and joy because it will create and enhance your self-love and confidence! Self-love + confidence = more happiness = less chronic body pain and eventually no pain at all!

The first time I experimented with this was when I was on my 2-Day “Meghan Retreat.” It was all about ME and no one else, so when I found myself belting out my favourite tracks that revolved around lost loves or loving someone else I said NUH-UH! I’M the one that matters here! I’m the one that needs my love! I’m going to sing to myself!

And so it went:

“…Where I been? Where I been all my life?

Baby it’s a sin. The way I look in the light…”

(Thanks Chris Brown and David Guetta).

And it felt great. It was liberating. These new lyrics were so true – so much truer to me than the original lyrics. Seriously!! Where I been all my life?

If you want to create more happy and less unhappiness and pain might I suggest you start by singing to yourself?

If we can’t connect with and love our own self as intimately as we want to with someone else we will never get to experience the true, deep, passionate, jaw-dropping, heart-melting love and happiness that we so often yearn for. We need to learn how to give this kind of love to ourselves first, and then we will be able to share this love with the people in our life. Love yourself = more happiness!

So if loving ourselves creates more happy, let’s start practicing loving ourselves! Aside from singing to yourself, how can you add some sweet self-lovin’ to your day?

Ideas:

Sweep yourself off your feet by buying yourself flowers

Give yourself daily hugs and kisses (seriously, wrap those arms AROUND yourself!)

Draw yourself a bubble bath

Make a list of everything you love about yourself and repeat it to yourself in a mirror

Add your own ideas here!

Go ahead and fall in love with yourself.

Want to see me practice what I preach? Click on the video below.

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How To Heal Your Pain

If I thought I could tell you how to heal your pain in one post then I would definitely need to get my head checked and retire as a life coach.  Just to clarify, when I use the word pain, I’m referring to physical, emotional, and mental pain; basically anything that causes you to suffer in your life.  If your pain causes you to suffer, then you are dealing with dirty pain and we want to get to the bottom of it and relieve your pain/suffering.  If your pain doesn’t cause you to suffer, then you are probably dealing with clean pain, or you’ve already done a lot of work on yourself and you are able to think clearer and more truthfully.  I’m going to give you an example of what exactly I mean when I say pain that causes you to suffer and pain that doesn’t cause you to suffer.

We, as humans, are excellent storytellers.  Some of us like to tell an uplifting and positive story (either through discipline or being blessed with a naturally optimistic viewpoint) while some of us like to tell our stories like we are victims of our life.  Let’s compare two women who have both gone through similar divorces.  The first woman tells herself that the divorce shouldn’t have happened, that she’ll be lonely forever, that she’ll never be loved again, and that she is worthless, while the second woman tells herself that this really is for the best, that there is no point to stay together if they don’t both love each other, that this will give her quality time to spend with herself, that she will find someone to share her life with again someday, and that she is a worthwhile person who just didn’t jive with her hubby anymore.  Now, I want to be very clear here!  Both women are still dealing with pain from the separation of a loved one, but this pain is clean.  Experiencing this clean pain is part of the healthy grieving process that everyone needs to go through when dealing with loss and major/minor catastrophic events.  The dirty pain that causes such suffering comes from the negative thoughts that the first woman has.  She is creating enormous amounts of stress in her body from the constant, spiralling negative thoughts she has about herself and her future.  Make sense?

So, if you are one of those people who are suffering from emotional, physical, or mental pain, how do you heal the pain?  How do you cure the pain?  If you’re looking for the magic pill to cure your depression, anxiety, worrisome thoughts, interstitial cystitis, back pain, fibromyalgia, unhappiness, sadness, weight issues, or any other chronic pain or uncomfortable and unwanted emotion, I’m sorry to say that you ain’t going to find it here, or anywhere else for that matter!  There is no magic pill.  No magic purple potion.  But there is definitely a way to cure your pain.  But it involves way more than choking down a horse pill.  You can heal your pain by starting on a dedicated, exhilarating, confusing, surprising, and fulfilling journey; a journey that isn’t a simple walk in the park, but a meaningful and worthwhile trek in an untamed jungle where the map is written in an obscure language.  It’s a journey of discovering who you really are and what you really want out of life.  So instead of handing you a magic potion, I can give you the magic ingredients.  I can provide you with information and useful tools for you to use over time, so slowly, you’ll get clearer and clearer and your pain will slowly disappear over time, just like how my interstitial cystitis disappeared.  Although I started my journey to relieve physical pain, my journey is now focused on following my feel good and living the life I was meant to live and serving the people I was meant to serve.  I am so thankful that I embarked on this journey, because I would definitely not be doing what lights me up if I hadn’t been blessed with a body that talked to me.

So keep on following me if you’re up for living an authentic, healthy, and life without pain…

A quote that helped me during times of pain:

“You can allow yourself to be a work of art, unique, intriguing, perhaps unusual, imperfect, not everybody’s style, but something to be treasured, always.” – Abigail Steidley

Click here to listen to Martha Beck coaches Abigail Steidley and Linda Ford talk about The Law of Attraction. It is a good example of how your thoughts cause your suffering. Enjoy!